Cultivating your superpowers. — Being able to validate is a superpower. It makes people feel warm and fuzzy inside. “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”-William James. If craving appreciation is the deepest, the foundation beneath that is the craving for acknowledgment. …

The question is not whether to speak up, but how. On playing small in a big world. — Often in relationships of all kinds, we wonder whether or not to speak up. This is the wrong way to think. You should speak up. You shouldn’t debate whether or not to speak up. Something gave you a feeling. You can suppress the feeling, but as the saying goes, what…

👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻 First, let’s define ghosting- its essence is acting out of integrity. It’s disappearing, not showing up. Ghosting is saying one thing, and doing another. It’s lying. The fact that I can use the word “ghost” as a verb and have it be widely understood is sad. This wasn’t a…

That’s right, you have a moral obligation to complain. You don’t have to complain all the time. But you should complain some of the time. …

Everyone is trying to connect. Whatever behavior manifests, remember that. Whether it be good or evil, boring, or exciting, we are all simply trying to relate and connect with one another. Unfortunately, we don’t always connect in the way we hope to. …

Putting the HUMAN into Human Resources 🙍 — In my career I have worked for a large public university, health care, Big Tech, Chick-Fil-A, consulting, and neighborly lawn mowing. While it may come as no surprise to anyone who has ever applied for a job, the HR experiences at most of these organizations have been abysmal. …

This list comprises 29 tidbits I’ve accumulated over my life. I don’t always recall where I learned what I learned. This list is in no particular order. First, they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you, then you win. It’s more important to be kind than…